Are you caring more about other people’s approval of you than your own?
If you’re answer is yes, then this blog post is for you.
Let’s be real, we care what other people think of us. We care what our friends think of us, what our partner thinks of us, what our family thinks of us, etc.
This is normal. We want to be loved, accepted and belong.
We want people to approve of us. We want to be well liked.
But, if we are worrying too much about what other people are thinking of us, if our mind is often full of thoughts caring about other people’s opinions of us, then that’s an opportunity to investigate deeper.
It’s an opportunity to give ourselves the approval, love, attention, acceptance and positive regard that we are wanting from others.
So, here’s the thing...
Other people’s opinions of you are none of your business.
You’ve probably heard that before, but I want you to recognize this and start practicing believing this everyday.
You cannot control what other people think of you and trying to by worrying about it will exhaust you and take your power away.
When you are preoccupied with what others are thinking about you, you are not in your power. You are not building a strong foundation of self-confidence, self-love and self-acceptance.
When you are preoccupied with wanting to be popular and get everyone to like you, you are probably ignoring yourself. You are giving too much attention to what you think might be happening in other people’s minds rather than your own mind. Your mental and emotional state will suffer from this.
People’s opinions change all the time. You can’t keep up, it’s impossible. Thus, it will serve you better to give up on trying to figure out what their opinions really are of you.
Have A Strong Foundation of Self-Care
Letting go of what other people think of you is selfcare. It’s caring for yourself more than you care about the opinions of what other people have of you.
What is your daily self-care routine?
Make sure you take breaks from social media (lots of people’s opinions are floating around on there) and take proper time to attend to yourself.
Exercise, meditate, express your creativity, rest, etc….
Do what fills you up and connects you closer to yourself and brings you closer to your joy and well being.
Focus on you without distractions. This will strengthen your self-love foundation.
When you have a strong foundation of self-love and self-care, you are able to be more resilient when someone’s opinion of you affects you.
You will bounce back faster and be able to laugh at yourself the next time you are worried about others. You will have a strong foundation to support you and fall back on.
Take ResponsibilIty For Your Thoughts
Recognize that you are the one worrying about what other people think of you. That you might be projecting. That you are choosing to believe what you think other people’s thoughts are. That you might be making up what you think other people are thinking.
What are the thoughts going on in your mind that are not serving you?
Pay attention to how these thoughts that aren’t serving you feel in your body. Do they have you feeling good, energized, confident, loved? Or, do they have you feeling tired, lonely, depressed, fearful?
Decide whether you want to continue believing these thoughts or not. Does worrying about what other people think about you serve you?
How do you feel in your body when you aren’t worrying about what others are thinking about you?
If you didn’t worry about what others thought of you, how would you show up differently in your daily life? In your business/work or relationships?
Consciously choose you.
Choose yourself before anyone else.
Every. Single. Day.
Remember who you are.
And show up as the confident person you are underneath all the mind chatter.
You approve of you.
And that is all you need to focus on.